Folks the title may be a bit misleading. I’m still working on my ability to pull a catchy title directly from my ass and place it in that daunting blank spot. I’ll work on it. Actually I probably won’t work on it because I’m lazy. Why waste valuable internet time coming up with clever titles?
If we are being honest with each other (and we should be) I do have friends. In fact I have excellent friends who have always been there for me. They have helped me survive college and entertained my son while I ate an actually meal. These are priceless additions to my life that I could never survive without and I love all of them. What I’m really referring to in my poor post title is my lack of mom friends.
I know a smattering of other mothers through my son’s daycare and they are very nice people but I often feel like the only thing we have in common is the fact that we have children about the same age. My job is a difficult thing to explain to people who are not in the field (honestly the only thing that clears a room faster than engineer is “IRS agent”) and my hobbies don’t jive with most of what these other women are into. My free time is spent playing video games, writing on this blog, or trying to choke another motherfucker. You can see how these might be difficult to use as conversation starters.
I want to have other women in my life that I can commiserate with about the difficulties of being a mother but at the same time I would like to have the option to talk about something besides my son. I want to be able to find some common ground that makes going out and grabbing dinner or a drink something that is totally out of the realm of possibility. This business is frustrating in a way that I am having trouble articulating.
The other issue that tends to crop up is that I try to be pretty laid back about my kid. I don’t worry about when he’ll walk or talk. I don’t buy into the YOUR BABY CAN READ bullshit and I don’t try to push him to do anything before he is good and ready. I really believe that you can’t force a kid to do something before their developmental timeline and that business just don’t seem to line up with how other mothers view raising children.
I kind of wish I knew how to sort some of this out in a way that would let me have at least a few other mom friends that I could hang out with occasionally. Perhaps I need to expand my horizons to Little Gym or a Mommy and Me class to meet other women. Does anyone in internet land have any stories about other mom friends? Am I alone in finding making new friends in this particular group difficult?